The Mindfulness Talk:
This past Monday, I was…off. Let me rephrase that. This past Monday, it took me half a day to realize that I was off. I didn’t say anything unusual or do anything different, but the people around me were subtly reacting to my off-ness with their own off-ness. And these subtle interactions continued until I started noticing myself getting tense. That’s when I realized that I was off. Let me rephrase that. I started wondering what the heck was wrong with people today, and then I went on a quick walk, and that’s when I realized it was me that was a bit off.
I didn’t say anything unusual or do anything different, but my intention was different. Karma would say, “bingo!” I wasn’t intending anything bad towards anyone on Monday, but I had a bit of a negative experience over the weekend and that bit of negativity had stuck to me like a staticky sock. It was there when I had all of my normal interactions on Monday, and it shifted my intention ever so slightly. And that was all it took. My people subtly reflected my subtle off-ness. If asked, they would probably have said they didn’t notice anything different and probably didn’t feel any different. But their soul felt the vibes of my soul. Intention.
After realizing what this “off-ness” was all about, I immediately felt guilty. But of course, guilt is just another staticky sock that subtly colors your intention. Well, crap.
Meditation and mindfulness can release negative intention. But there are other ways as well. You can counter that unconscious negative intention with conscious positive intention. As you go through the normal routine of your day, you can consciously send out positive vibes through little prayers or thoughts.
Intention matters. If your words and actions are well thought out but you have a bit of static negativity, don’t be surprised if some “offness” results. On the other hand, even if you bumble your words or mess up your actions, if your intention was clean and clear of negativity than you have done the karma proud.
The best us humans can do is to try and stay aware of our intentions, and to understand that our intentions ripple out into the universe.
The Meditations:
Finding Present Meditation for becoming aware: Maybe you are walking or maybe you are sitting. Become aware of your feet. Maybe take a moment to lift them up one at a time. Notice if they feel cool or warm. Notice if they are feeling tense or relaxed. Notice if they are feeling tired or sore, or relaxed.
Become aware of your hands. Maybe take a moment to move them. Notice if they feel cool or warm. Notice if they are feeling tense or relaxed. Notice if they are feeling sensitive anywhere. Just notice.
Become aware of your breath. Notice if it feels cool or warm. Notice how your breath fills your nose. Notice how your breath fills your head. Just notice.
Continue doing this awareness meditation, or move on to the mindfulness meditation.
Mindfulness Meditation for becoming aware of (and releasing) negative intention: Think back to your first few waking minutes. Recall how your body felt and what thoughts entered your mind. Just think back with curiosity. If you become aware of some negative energy, just keep noticing the negative energy with curiosity until it fades away.
Think back to your first morning hour. Recall how your body felt and what thoughts entered your mind. Just think back with curiosity. If you become aware of some negative energy, just keep noticing the negative energy with curiosity until it fades away.
Slowly think back through the rest of your day so far. Recall how your body felt and what thoughts entered your mind. Just think back with curiosity. If you become aware of some negative energy, just keep noticing the negative energy with curiosity until it fades away.
Closing Routine: When you are ready, rub fingers together and take three cleansing breaths. Or use any closing routine that works for you.
The Talk: Stress can make our minds stuck in rigid (vs flexible) thinking. When we are stress stuck, we can’t easily navigate the little ups and downs of our day.
The Meditation: When we are stress stuck, we can use the mind-body connection to help us out of the trap. Imaging a warm breeze traveling through the body, unfreezing our body and our mind.
The Talk: We use muscle memory as a tool for so many things in our life. Why not begin using muscle memory as a tool for our mental health?
The Meditation: Use this to create a mindfulness routine around a movement you do often, like washing the dishes.
The Talk: Moments of deep peace are wonderful, but we don’t gather in the peace with the goal and hope of having a more peaceful year. Peace-grabbing will always lead to disappointment. Instead, we use our deep peace moments to notice the big truth of life.
‍The Meditation: A meditation for noticing our connection to the supported universe. ‍
The Talk: Motivation is not what gets you through the door. Motivation results from burning away thoughts that no longer serve you.
The Meditation: Visualizing a fire, and that burning away that which is holding you back.
The Talk: Creating goals for ourself is normal. But let’s make sure your self-improvement goal passes “the love test”.
The Meditation: A loving-kindness meditation that begins with our outside loves, and moves this same love inward.
The Talk: Energy is not the same as energetic. It’s not meant to push us forward. Energy is meant to nourish us. It's meant to help us feel guided and provided for. Not in a busy way, but in an inner light kind of way. This is REAL energy.
The Meditation: A guided imagery of a warm, consistent, life-giving energy.
The Talk: You don’t need to wait until the beginning of a week or the beginning of a season. Taking a quick, unplanned, 15 minute step off the path of your normal routine is a wonderful and refreshing way to experience a reset and renew.
The Meditation: Using the image of a path to gather some new, fresh energy.
The Talk: When we go through times of feeling down or mediocre, its not the real you that you are noticing. You are noticing the dust that has settled from recent decisions or habits or patterns. But I promise, the real you is there - under the dust - and you might just be ready for a spit-wash!
The Meditation: A gentle way to acknowledge that which has caused some recent “dust” in our lives, and an empowering way to glow our real self out of the dust.
The Talk: Self-esteem rises and falls with the tides. But self-worth is the idea that when you mess up at life, your wholeness has not been subtracted. When you achieve at something in life, your wholeness has not been added to. You are at all times, whole.
The Meditation: Imagining yourself as a whole, shimmery being that cannot be subtracted from.
The Talk: Sometimes letting go isn’t an option. Aparigraha is a practice of “ungripping” or “unattaching”.
The Meditation: If you are feeling something big like a major life moment, a longstanding hurt, a back-of-the-mind fear… try out this meditation. Its goal is not to let it go, but to simply loosen its grip.
The Talk: Ahamkara is the process of separating our “doing” from our “being”. We are not a product of our actions and choices. Our true “being” is a product of the universal connection.
The meditation: A meditation where we actively resist that which urges us to do better and be better. Instead, we fight back with our real, whole “being”.
The Talk: An intention is a phrase, a mantra, a prayer, or even an image. Walking or doing yoga or doing the dishes… with an intention is a beautiful way to open yourself up to being known.
The Meditation: An intention meditation that can be done sitting or while moving.
The Talk: “Inspiriting” is the idea that with each inhaling breathe, we take in the spirit of the world and with each exhale we give part of ourselves back to it.
The Meditation: The practice of “inspiriting”, using our breath to connect with the spirit of the world.
The Talk: When you are trying to do a balance pose in yoga, instructors often have you stare at a spot across the room, a drishti, to help you focus on one thing and tune out the rest. Creating a Life Drishti will help you focus on your own life and tune out the rest of the comparing.
The Meditation: This one can be repeated often if you desire to create a Life Drishti.
The Talk: Pratipaksha-bhavana is an active practice. It’s not ignoring or fixing. It’s empowering.
The Meditation: Using the power of opposites, to both heat and cool.
The Talk: You may be feeling lonely, but separation is an illusion. We are all part of the same big wheel. Work your way closer to the center, and you will find that lonely space dissolving.
The Meditation: A centering meditation for breaking through to connectedness.
The Talk: Sometimes we need to free ourselves. It’s about taking noticing of our reward-craving and acceptance-seeking. It’s about taking notice when we are clenching onto something or toward someone. Or onto a belief about ourselves. When we take notice of our attachments, we have an opportunity to realign and reorientate ourselves, to unclench our hands and find some freedom.
The Meditation: Using the sound of river water to notice our attachment feelings and find some freedom.
Mindfulness Talk: Little bits of negativity stick to us like staticky socks, making us feel...off. As we interact with our people, our normal words and actions reflect that subtle off-ness. Intention matters. So what do we do when we realize we are...off?
Meditation: A meditation for becoming aware of our off-ness, and shedding the subtle negative intention.
The Talk: Olympians have evolved from mental health strategies of “zoning out” to better strategies of mindfulness. Mindfulness brings us into conversation with ourselves.
The Meditation: Using an Olympic moment to tap into our own memories.
The Talk: Did you know that everything in nature breaks in the same way? There is a valuable lesson in this, especially when we are in a season of breaking.
The Meditation: Using the image of breaks and crinkles to find peace within a season of breaking.
We have lots of strategies to deal with everyday stressors. But what helps when our stress isn’t for today but for tomorrow?


The Talk: How stress can actually be beneficial to us, using fascinating research on the stress of wind on trees.
The Meditation: A meditation to notice and honor our stress. Imagining an ancient tree swaying, shifting in the wind.